5 SIGNS YOUR WIFE IS CRAZY AND HOW TO DEAL WITH HER
Is your wife crazy? is she difficult to deal with? this is something that is plaguing men because they don’t really want to break up or divorce their wives, but they also don’t want to deal with the insanity at home. You may even be asking yourself “when did this happen” “why is my wife crazy”
now before I continue there are people that suffer from serious mental health issues. this article isn’t for people like that. This article is for people whose wife doesn’t suffer from any kind of mental health problems and are wondering what to do when she flies off the handle constantly.
Men and women have different ways that they need to communicate with each other and different emotional needs as well. men want to be respected in relationships and women want to feel loved. Usually, when a girl starts acting crazy it’s because she doesn’t feel loved, and since she doesn’t feel loved she stops respecting her man and it creates this cycle of negativity.
Too much negativity will rip a relationship apart because it’s just no fun being there.
I just want to say that tolerating disrespect is a big no-no and you should never tolerate disrespect for an extended period of time however sometimes your partner is dealing with something and can act out. I just want you to weigh your options and think before you act on emotion.
5 signs your wife is crazy
You can’t go overboard and think that your wife is crazy just because she is upset at maybe one thing that you’re doing. one thing you have to know about women is that they are emotional in nature and if something else is bothering them they might take it out on you.
say for example you’re at the grocery store and she’s already upset about something else if you add to her emotional state, she might blow up on you. people generally have a certain amount of emotional crap that they’re willing to deal with in life. one example of that is a balloon. when life gets more and more stressful that balloon begins to inflate. as more and more stresses and to her life that balloon will eventually reach a point where it’s about to explode. one little pinprick can pop the balloon and that’s when she explodes on you.
Obviously, it’s not cool for her to explode on you as she needs to be able to handle her emotions properly, but I want you to understand how human emotions work. if the emotions are not dealt with properly by “letting the air out of the balloon” They end up taking things out on you.
Sign #1: She’s always angry with you
Does it always seem like she’s mad at you? does it always seem like she wants to take things out on you? do you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around her? this is one of the first signs that she is crazy. If you do something wrong, she instantly explodes at you instead of just talking to you about it.
this was my personal issue for quite some time. I had some real work to do because this is the way that my father was. it was hard for him to manage his emotions and I grew up thinking that it was normal to talk to people like that. it’s really hard to unlearn this kind of stuff as you get older as well.
Anytime you have to walk on eggshells in a relationship it’s not good because you’re not able to actually be yourself because you’re so worried about them exploding on you.
The bottom line is human beings need to be able to communicate in a calm and effective manner in order to get their point across.
- Respect
- Communication
- Compromise
- Trust
- Boundaries
these are the most important aspects to keeping a relationship alive and healthy and if they’re yelling at you all the time, they’re disrespecting you. they’re also crossing a boundary.
I coach a lot of men and a lot of these men have no idea how to set proper boundaries. this makes them “nice guys” and what do we know about nice guys?
they always finish last right!
the reason behind this is you don’t respect yourself if you don’t set proper boundaries. if you don’t respect yourself how can other people respect you?
Sign #2: She gaslights you or ignores you
Gaslighting became a pretty big buzzword in the past few years, but it is a very toxic thing, nonetheless.
She might see some things like “I never said that” or “that never happened” is common for these people. if this happens on a regular basis yes, she is gaslighting you.
Another thing somebody does when they are acting strange is ignoring you. when somebody ignores you or gives you the silent treatment they are acting out of pocket. there is a difference though for people who need a day or two after a major argument and they’re not ready to talk but when that lasts a week or two weeks simply because they want to punish you is toxic.
this is especially true if you have no idea what you did, and they won’t tell you. one of my ex’s was like this. she would just basically ignore me and then say stuff like “you know what you did”
Sign #3 she threatens you with physical harm
This is arguably one of the most toxic things that anybody can do. this crosses boundaries in many ways and if this happens to you, you should rethink the relationship entirely.
if you’re a man and things are starting to really spiral out of control and make sure you start recording just to protect yourself. you don’t have to film her face just make sure you record audio. I understand there are laws against this, but police tend to favor a woman’s word over a man’s until proven otherwise.
so, if she threatens you with physical violence start recording. verbal abuse is also a big no-no.
Always remember the five relationship tenants I mentioned above. verbal abuse 100% crosses boundaries and respect.
Sign #4 she tries to control everything you do
I once did a coaching session with a guy who went to the grocery store and was half an hour late getting home. she yelled at him and called him names while blowing up his phone wondering where he was. this is absolutely unacceptable behavior.
this is insecurity 101. if someone treats you like this you should again rethink the relationship because they have no sense of self-worth.
People who act like this oftentimes think that their spouse is cheating. the coaching client I mentioned earlier I was just talking to the cashier for a while because he happened to catch him on break and decided to talk to him.
He explained this to her, and she didn’t believe him. you must love in a way that the person that you love feels free and open. love is not a jail cell. Love is about giving openly.
Sign #5 she requests your location and checks your phone
This is something that new young couples are starting to experience and deal with. Some of them even think this is normal. This is a major sign of insecurity because they can’t stand not knowing where you are.
One of the hardest things to do is to come back from a situation where you’ve already let somebody cross your boundaries for quite some time. they’re going to be used to the idea of being able to walk all over you. essentially you’ve trained them to disrespect you. it will be difficult to turn things around but you can do it by starting to stand up for yourself.
so if you’ve let them have your location for quite some time tell them that you are no longer going to be sharing your location. At first, they will put up a fight and wonder why. especially insecure people because they will start assuming that you’re going to be hanging out with the opposite sex and possibly cheating.
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If you’re at the point where you feel like it’s just too much, then you should probably revisit the idea of even being in a relationship with this person. I understand that it can be difficult, and you might even be trying very hard to communicate with them.
I coach many guys who try to talk to their wives/girlfriends, and they just don’t listen or don’t care to listen.
Of course, there are many men out there that might be just like this as well.
always remember that in a relationship it takes 2 to tango and if one person doesn’t want to work on things and doesn’t bother listening to you then you shouldn’t be in that relationship.
1. What to do when your wife is acting crazy – don’t fight fire with fire
You cannot fight crazy with crazy. if you start acting like they do they’re only going to continue that same behavior and amplify what they’re already doing.
Many people think they can fight fire with fire here which just won’t make any progress. negativity plus negativity will always equal more negativity. now I’m not saying that you should sit here and put up with that kind of behavior for an extended amount of time because if they are being disrespectful to you, you shouldn’t put up with it for too long.
If your wife is going through a rough patch or dealing with some sort of external issue, then sometimes it’s OK to cut her some slack. Especially if she’s been good to you for quite some time.
A lot of the guys that are going to find this article are most likely dealing with a wife that has been recently treating them like crap for maybe a few days to a few weeks. What I’m trying to tell you is to think back about how her behavior has been overall and think if is it worth fighting right now.
you need to get down to the nitty-gritty about what the relationship is suffering from.
Men want to feel respected, and women want to feel loved.
It’s important you have incredible patients at this time and if you don’t really see a light at the end of the tunnel then of course rethink the relationship.
2. Try to find out what’s going on
One of the relationship tenants is communication and trying to get to the bottom of whatever is going on here is extremely important. like I said earlier it takes two to tango and when one person does not want to communicate it makes the relationship hard.
One of the coaching clients that I had was dealing with his wife who had postpartum depression. she started to act extremely out of pocket. she was rude she was calling him names it was extreme. He was ready to check out of the relationship and then he started researching postpartum depression after he came to me.
he started coming at her with extreme positivity and understanding. she stopped jabbing at him constantly. In his situation, everything he was doing wrong was amplified by 100 because of her postpartum depression when normally she would never go off on him for the things he was doing wrong.
This is what I mean by trying to find out what’s going on. They may be going through something, and they may not know how to communicate that to you. If you don’t sit down and try to figure out what’s going on it will just continue to get worse and worse over time as the negativity continues to pile.
3. Demand respect
This is a tough one for many nice guys out there. One of the problems plaguing men today is the idea of standing up for yourself. one thing that’s really missing from our society today is masculinity. masculine energy is about drive, purpose, getting goals accomplished, assertiveness, strength, etc. right now there is a huge push in media telling men to be softer and more feminine.
this is creating a wave of men who have no idea how to stand up for themselves because they’re keeping told by everyone to just take it. on top of that men have nobody that actually cares about their feelings which is why suicide rates are so high.
people will not respect you unless you demand respect. women cannot love a man that they don’t respect. if you don’t stand up for yourself, they will lose respect and attraction for you.
At first, they will put up a bit of a fight because they’re not used to you standing up for yourself especially if you haven’t been doing it for a long time. but if you stick to your guns and you focus on yourself and continue to demand respect they will eventually comply or they won’t. if they do not comply you should not be in that kind of relationship. one of the most important rules of a relationship with anybody if you cannot force them to be how you want them to be they need to choose that themselves. Sometimes human beings delude themselves into thinking that they can change others.
4. Thinking of just running away? Don’t do it prematurely
Running away is the easy way out and usually what people think of doing most. usually what happens is it makes everything way worse. They will say oh “you left me at my worst”. Which if done prematurely is true.
One of the most common things that people who lack integrity is running at the site of any kind of friction. One of the worst things people do is argue and then sweep it under the rug like it never happened. each time the relationship gets negative it’s like a point system. one point gets added to the negativity bucket.
The cool thing about humans is we eventually do forget about the past depending on how severe the negativity was of course. This is especially true if life continues to get more and more positive. when the positive outweighs the negative we tend to let go or forget about the negative that has happened.
One rule my wife and I have is we do not go to bed angry with each other we at least try to make some communication headway. It doesn’t always work, and it doesn’t always get solved but it’s better than not trying.
5. Blaming yourself
Am I coaching I see women do this a whole lot more than men but it is quite common, but people blame themselves too much. it’s OK to feel sad if somebody hurt your feelings especially your wife. this is the person that you have entrusted your emotions too. she has the power to hurt you and she knows it. This also doesn’t help with anything because sitting around blaming yourself doesn’t move the needle forward in any kind of way. this is something I learned in business the idea of “what moves the needle forward”. In relationships, communication moves the needle forward 99% of the time if there’s a conflict.
I often see guys get upset because they think they could have done more to get the relationship to go in a better direction. If your wife doesn’t want to communicate and doesn’t want to talk to you don’t blame yourself.
6. Dedicating to making the relationship work
This is where one of the most important parts of a relationship comes into play called compromise. it’s one of the relationship tenants and can’t be ignored. there are just going to be times when both of you are not going to be at your best selves. people tend to forget what relationships truly are and they add a bit of fantasy to them.
A relationship is simply two individual people sharing an experience together. if one of those individuals is going through a tough time then the relationship will suffer. This is where compromise comes in. during these tough times the relationship will shift and sometimes it’ll be more difficult.
if you think of our relationship like a scale a good relationship is well balanced on the left and the right. Sometimes it’s going to lean a little to the left and sometimes it’s going to go a little to the right that’s just the way it goes.
7. Letting the relationship die
One thing I notice that people will do is just let the relationship die off and not actually fight to make it work. they’ve just given up internally because there’s been too much negativity. this sort of leads into my last point but I just wanted to make it obvious that if you let a relationship die it’s the same as giving up on it.
I understand when things get really difficult it’s hard to make a logical decision about a relationship when you’re in an emotional state. What I advise my coaching students to do is take some time away from the person to gather their thoughts and clear their head.
Go for a drive, go for a walk, go to the gym. do whatever you have to do to separate yourself from the situation. Sitting around and waiting for things to change without any clear communication on how that change is going to come to pass is just destined to fail.
8. See if she will be honest with you
if you go down this route make sure that you’re prepared for the answer because it’s not going to be pretty. Sometimes they’ll come right out and say that they’re just no longer attracted to you, but they just never really had the heart to leave you. they could also say that they’re just going through a really tough time and need some space.
Sometimes they’ll be very honest about how they feel, and this does come down to the amount of respect they have for you. If the respect is really low you can expect them to treat you like crap because attraction will also be low. if you catch them at a pretty good time and the attraction is still high then they’ll have a kinder answer most of the time.
9. Seeking professional help
There is absolutely no shame in seeking professional help for your situation. a relationship coach, a therapist, a psychiatrist, etc can help you.
these people provide an outside perspective and can take a look at the situation from the outside looking in. Bias is removed as well which helps to shine a more objective light on the situation.
if you’re constantly thinking “is my wife crazy” or how can I get out of this situation because I can’t handle my crazy wife it’s time to get some professional help.
10. Sometimes you gotta just leave your wife
I hate to say it but sometimes a situation just is not salvageable. The person that you’re with is no longer willing to communicate with you and try to make things work. it seems completely unfair, but you can’t force someone to love you and you can’t force someone to care about the relationship as much as you.
making it work is something that people choose to do over time and sometimes people are just not in a great spot individually to continue putting a lot of effort into the relationship.
As a coach, I have seen this happen time and time again and this is how people grow apart. at the end of the day a relationship is about choosing to work on things and commit to making the relationship better every single day, but it takes two people to do that.
Don’t get me wrong if your wife is going through a really hard time you should definitely be there for her. just understand that tolerating disrespect for an extended period of time is a big no-no. I just want you to understand that it leads to a loss of respect and attraction from her end.
I have coached thousands of men so if you’re having a really hard time understanding all of this you can book a coaching session with me, and I can help give you some clarity.
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