Infidelity- this is a common problem in a relationship. Cheating may cause self-esteem and mental health problems to the person involved aside from the fact that the relationship may end.
Cheating is also a betrayal wherein your partner’s trust may dissolve. Some people may give it another chance however for sure it will leave its mark.
Here are the 3 types of men who have affairs and how to recognize the signs if it is already happening
1) The neglected coward.
This type of cheater is a married man who has become disconnected from his wife but doesn’t want to fix their relationship or marriage. The is usually unhappy already and chose to betray his partner thinking that there are no other solutions in order to repair their marriage.
In this kind of issue, confronting your partner is more difficult since it requires emotional vulnerability and effort.
What will happen next?
>The guy is looking for something because he is thinking that something is missing in his relationship or marriage. The man feels that the time will come they will separate ways. The amount of love and affection he used to get from his wife is slowly fading.
>The feeling that his wife changes already. His wife isn’t who she used to be the love, the care, and the attention that she gives to him fade away.
>The desire is gone. Man misses being desired. He always wishes that his wife would meet his needs, but he is afraid to talk to her. Maybe he is unhappy with her and fantasizes about someone else.
>Man decides to turn to affairs to fulfill his needs. This is the state wherein a man finds or looks for someone else to satisfy there needs so that his sex life will become more exciting.
>Their marriage is slowly tearing apart. Instead of communicating with their partner and working with their relationships, they find hangouts, cheat with their partner, and soon they decided to separate.
>It’s much easier to cheat to end his relationships instead of dealing with the issues directly. Man always thought that even if they stayed together, they won’t be the same married couple they were before he had an affair.
2) Frustrated.
Obviously, a lot of men cheat because they are frustrated with their relationships. There are types of frustrations that push men to cheat.
They are unhappy anymore with their relationship, thus he always feels that he is unloved. This will result in sexless relationships which will make them too boring and make him feel that his efforts are not appreciated anymore.
Another reason is that man is loved too much and feels smothered in his relationship. Sometimes a married man thinks of a way in order to escape from these feelings. While there is no reasonable excuse for an extramarital affair, it is useful for married women always think that they are having an unhappy relationship.
3) Mama’s boy.
A mama’s boy is always immature. This kind of cheater is in a relationship or marriage with someone he doesn’t see as a partner but as a caretaker. He sees his wife as his mom, and he doesn’t have the maturity to work on his problems.
He always wants a stable relationship at home with someone to take care of him and an exciting relationship outside of his marriage. For this reason, he acts like a teenager or, more accurately, an immature mama boy.
To him, cheating is also a way of taking control of his wife. Since he sees his wife as someone responsible for him who does so much for him, making a decision without her feel like he’s in charge.
He’s seeking validation and trying to increase his self-esteem by proving that he exists outside of his marriage.
He doesn’t want his daily life. Since he always wants to compare his mother and his wife, he always doesn’t want the way he reacts to things.
If his partner has a low sex drive or isn’t interested in sex as much as he does, he might end up feeling sexual frustration that he seeks to deal with outside of the marriage. Instead of talking to his wife and trying to solve this problem, he decides to cheat.
What Are The Signs of a Cheater?
A cheater is always a cheater. Always remember that cheating is never an accident, it is a choice. If you betrayed your partner, you will be always in trouble. Trying to keep everything hidden means doing your best so that your partner will never know that you are cheating.
Here are several signs of cheating:
a. Unusual sexual behavior.
Men do things they never did before. He is becoming experimental while having sex.
b. Suspicious use of the phone.
Men usually hide their phones, always keep them on silent, not answering when you
c. Suspicious computer use.
He might shut down or minimize a window of the computer when you come closer. He would also delete or clear browser history and stop using shared devise.
d. Always have overtime.
When you ask him how’s his work he is always irritated or has a vague answer.
e. Always going out with friends.
If he says that he is with his friend, he might not meet with them at all.
e. Suspicious money issues.
He suddenly spends more money but doesn’t want to talk about it. He even stops making plans that would need to have a high amount of money like having a vacation together.
f. He has already become a liar.
You know that he lies because of his actions.
g. You stop doing things together.
He already starts avoiding you like you don’t hang out together or even have a family gathering.
There is also a reason why men cheat even if he loves you however the only main answer is that they choose to.
Being in a relationship with a cheater will never give you a peaceful mind and life. So if you cannot avoid it, give your partner a second chance or you have no intention to change, better separate ways. It will result in no good.
